Some people prefer to do things that they want first, and then do things they need.
Some people prefer to do things that they need first, and then do things they want.
First set of people may be selfish, as they only concentrate on what they want. They are dreamers that live in the future. Then there are people that do things they need first. These are the responsible people that take care of whats in front of them and set aside the things they want.
What kind of person are you? I feel like i'm a mix of both.
Sup brotha,
ReplyDeleteI been visiting your site since I was a freshmen in high school. ( y2k , aol dial up, Finkl, H.o.t...Trl) days. I only visit about once a month but your still held my interest. I'm 28 now and still trying to do the whole college thing. As I continue to catch up about your life, I feel we connect in a way. I feel lost. Scared shitless about hitting 30 and feel pressured to have a "career" and get married. I just got out of a 6 year relationship and I totally feel I back tracked my life a million steps.
I was bummed to hear your career in real estate didn't work out. Kinda gave me hope their still a future at a late age. I understand the cliche "if you want it enough you can achieve it". Harder then said.
Just need some advice, how do you manage to cope when life is completely shitting on you?
Keep it real Bronx, I know you havent been updating this site for a hot minute like you use too, but you seem legit, I hope all goes well and any advice on how to jump over that hill without tripping? emotioally and physically.
Hello J,
ReplyDeleteIt's good to see an old school member still visiting the site. Real Estate in general is possible at any junction of your life. All you need is a license and some connections. I only strayed away because a better opportunity arose. There will always be opportunities for you. What i've learned about life up until now is that it's based on two things.
**Timing and decision making
Being at the right places at the right times is only half the battle. You also have to realize when an opportunity is right in front of you. Just be on the look out.
Emotionally, it's very hard. Even I haven't fully grasped my past relationships. But it's different for every person. I hope you can move on and find something better, because I haven't yet.
Word and I feel what your saying but I know your abit older then me. Are you...satisfied about where your at? Tough question when you can always be happier but I remember you saying you went to the city for a new job. It wasn't for you , I understand. NYC , I live in my but was raised in Cali till 12. Cold weather is a downer.
ReplyDeleteBut like you said. You went out to look for that oppertunity and I couldn't think of a better way to take charge then move across the country n start a new life. It didn't work out.
That kills me man. I understand not every door you choose to open but again like you said...you haven't found anything better. I always try to look on the brighter side but I feel so....lost. I was bless to grow up here with every oppertunity at my hand but yet I still don't know what route to take. Did you ever think about going back to college or maybe making another big move. Your post lately seem to have encourage and "life lessons" but it always seem to end in a sour note. Maybe I'm taking it at a wrong perspective.
Ex: I'm summarizing , when you stated ones action eventually make them who they are. . True , but you regret some things in your past. (We all do) but the older I get....the further the door is from me. I don't want to look back but I made so many wrong turns that I feel like it's too late to retrace my steps.
Apologize for the rambling and by no mean looking for a counseler. Just someone who seems to be going through what Im going through. Arnt you afraid of spending all this time on the real estate biz to only find something better but again, what if it was the wrong door once again. Take chances , I understand , but one can only have so many.
Mid 20 crisis , trying to find a true identity. Just seems like each mask I put on is always wrong.
Apologize about the rant again but have you ever though about what if you stayed in the big apple. Maybe a promotion. The right girl. A family. What if what if
What I'm really tryin to ask is how you came up with your choices. Did you take a trip. Sat down n pondered. Or looked in the mirror and it hit you?
You and I are not the only ones in similar dilemmas. I've met many people in similar situations, partly due to the current job market and it's competitive nature. Nepotism and corrupt humans in particular comes to mind - which enforces the saying, "the rich get richer". The sour note was intentional, considering it's normal for one to feel sour when they realize some years of their life has been wasted due to a bad decision or unseen circumstances.
ReplyDeleteI always look back at my past decisions and have tons of regret. Regret I have to live with for the rest of my life. I have dreams about building a time machine and going back to change some of my decisions which generally becomes a really good dream. Everyone have these regrets. The decision to move to NY 6 years ago was largely in part to move closer to my gf at the time. Probably one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Don't let a girl dangle you by the balls. But i've come to realize that even wrong decisions need to be grasped and just looked on a brighter note (which is one way to cope with the reality). I was able to work at one of the largest corporations at the most lucrative cities in the world. I lived in one of the most historical landmarks in America, etc.
When I look back at your question, my answer is actually pretty simple. I did what made me happy at the time. Life is short - it's so short that's its imperatitve you do what makes you happy. i.e. I moved to NY because I was happy to live closer to my gf, i was happy to explore a new city. Moving back to Cali was a no brainer. I was no longer happy in NY.
The thing going for both of us right now is that we aren't strapped in the circle of life. Meaning (from what i gathered) we are both single and at the prime of our lives. We aren't strapped to wife and kids, or have obligations to attend to. This creates an exponential amount of more possibilities. Moving won't be an issue, and the only person making decisions in your life is YOU.
I may have regrets and ponder the dreaded question of "what if".. but what is done is done, and we have to move on. All of my decision were based on how it would improve my life to be more happy. If that decision proved later to be otherwise, I would just make a new decision.
Do what makes you happy. Sometimes this happiness comes at a cost. I have friends that have sold all of their belongings and moved to remote areas of the world to help less fortunate people. They live off donations from family and friends, but continue their work because helping others gives them the most pleasure out of life. If you aren't sure what makes you happy - then that I cannot help you.
Good luck!
Solid advice brother. I couldn't ask for a better response. If there's a goal in mind, extend extra branches to it. Each branch will slowly grow depending what I chose. If it doesn't suit me at the end, extend branches from the one I already ventured.
ReplyDeleteKeep up the site when you can. You still have followers, even a decade down the road.
Thanks.
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